Forgive Yourself

forgive yourself

“I, who have never willfully pained another, have no business to pain myself.” ~Marcus Aurelius

Does something you did in the past trouble you? So much so that you feel haunted by guilt, remorse and self-blame. Maybe you have been beating yourself up for years and being overly self-critical about what happened. If so, it’s time to show yourself some compassion in the way of self-forgiveness. We cannot change the past, but we can sure make our future better. By forgiving yourself and letting go of an emotional burden, you can find greater peace of mind and happiness.

Take the challenge

Write yourself a heartfelt letter of forgiveness as if a friend was reaching out to forgive you for the hurt you caused him or her. The letter is meant to be one of compassion, support and understanding, not of self-hatred, negativity or regret. Let yourself go. Use encouraging words. Try not to self-edit, just letting your emotions and words flow.

You can cover these three points in the letter:

  • What you learned about yourself knowing you did the best you could with the self-awareness you had at the time
  • What you have accomplished in your life and how proud of yourself you are
  • Express your gratitude for all that is good about you, your character, your life

Here is an example letter of self-forgiveness to help you get started.

Once you have the letter completed, you can choose to keep it or throw it away, whatever makes you feel best. Writing this letter is a positive step in healing your past. The letter may not erase all your hurt but overtime, with awareness of this hurt and continued work on releasing negative emotions, the pain will become less and less. So bless your past, forgive yourself and focus on the better life you are making for yourself.

Benefits of Practicing Self-forgiveness

  • You feel less angry and depressed by releasing negative thoughts and emotions
  • You stop self-destructive behavior used to dull the pain
  • You learn to let go of mistakes because you are only human
  • You gain a greater sense of self-worth, confidence and ability to love yourself

What happened when you practiced self-forgiveness? Let us know by commenting below or share your story!